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Hi Guys,
I felt compelled to write this after a chat in the chatroom with a few guys. The general concensus in the room was that people on this site are only interested in chatting online and have no intention of ever wanting to meet offline.
I found this to be very strange. The rapport and relationship building you do with friends is surely only successful and sustainable if you actually meet each other in the real world – afterall, communication is 7% what you say, 35% how you say it and 52% body language. A chatroom can only tap into 7% of human communication!
So I’m very interested to know… what are your thoughts on meeting guys from this site in the real world. Would you do it?
(not so) Tough Guy Mikey
90% of all statistics are made up….
Essentially meeting up with people is all about comfort level — for both parties. Some are more outgoing than others and like to meet new people, others just prefer to talk (somewhat) anonymously.
To my understanding, the general purpose of this site is to discuss things height/size related, though topics have ranged well beyond that — the beauty of an open forum. If people are so inclined to meet up, that is their own preference. You are allowed to make decisions for yourself. To expect others to have the exact same feelings about meeting someone who, as you say, you can only get to know 7% is unrealistic. There are too many examples to cite of meeting people from online that turn out badly for one party (and yes, there are those that turn out positively). Again, the matter boils down to comfort level and potential risk.
That being said, I have never met anyone from this site, but I have considered it. I might some day in the future; I’ll be less inclined if they force the issue.
I’d meet somebody, but I live in the middle of nowhere. I don’t plan on meeting somebody, but I can be hopeful.
I’m only too happy to meet other guys.
I’m torn on the issue.
In gay culture, internet cruising on sites like adam4adam, manhunt, and gay.com have made it commonplace to meet people from online. Just a torso shot and a five minute chat will get you pretty far. In some areas (like mine) online chat is the ONLY way to meet people. People only go to clubs in groups, and it’s difficult to work your way through 4 friends to get to one guy.
As far as this site goes, If I were out of town I’d meet up with anyone for a drink or something. But I’d feel the need to keep things pretty separate if anyone were in my area. Mebbe…
im like virginia on this one lol, i would gladly meet up with anyone, if i were out of town(away from the family preferably lol) or if someone was in my area lol
Its a personal preference. I personally would never meet up with anyone off a chatroom. Im here to chat and thats it. But then i am pretty much a recluse.
I’ll meet and hang out with just about anyone. I have tons of “real” friends and also several who I have met through message boards or whatever. You can meet someone random at the bar or wherever and it’s the same thing really.
With that said, any tall handsome dudes visiting or living near Chicago can get in touch ;)
Sorry to hear that, ukbigz! You sound like worth jumping on a plane to the UK for! ;-)
Some really interesting commetns so far… just to clarify, I was referring to meeting up for a drink and a chat, not a sex meet (which are encouraged by other networking sites).
Keep the comments coming.
I’ve got a number of friends I’ve made here I want to meet up with. Some I can’t, some I don’t know well enough yet, and some are too far away looks across the Pond at Meyoga
- stands forlornly at the shore* ... shit this is the lake.. damn-it i forgot i was landlocked..
Well, I don’t think it is a bad idea to meet someone if you have talked a lot with him here. However it should be clearly and honestly said if someone never want to meet you for real!
I mean when someone ask “it will be nice if we meet there” or “can I visit you once because I’ll be in your city those holidays or this WE” people shouldn’t answer “maybe” if they don’t really wanna meet you. It will only lead to disappointment. I prefer to be told “I prefer that we stay cyber-friend” than be told “maybe we can fix a day for us to meet” and always run away when a date is proposed…
It is hard to explain it in english so if you don’t understand what I mean, just say it ;)
That makes sense miniman… and maybe that’s a site improvement idea to recommend to Admin… a field on the profile where you indicate whether you would never meet, might consider meeting or probably would meet offline.
It would prevent potential future problems as it manages expectations upfront. For example, UKBigz has stated he would not be interested in meeting, so this would show on his profile. Guys who use this site for social networking would then know that they would never get to meet him so could decide whether or not to instigate a conversation in the first place.
- i’m not having a go at you UKBigz – I respect your decision **
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