Hi guys. Question for everyone. I am trying to understand what it means to be friend on HG. I usually respect everyone privacy and avoid bugging people who dont want to chat/message. But I dont understand those who friend you, and then dont even bother answer a simple “hello” message. I dont want to criticize … just trying to understand, honest. Am I expecting too much waiting for an answer from a friend on here? Any opinion is welcome. Thanks.

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You definitely diserve an answer Mark!
Well if you’re asked from friendship I will totally think that it implies message exchange to better know each other… If not, what’s the point of asking everyone for a friendship???

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And it can be more than a simple message exchange…
Look at us, mini and me are both french, we are friends on HG, but since we have met in France, we are friends IRL too
Isn’t it ???

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Are you two guys the first people to meet in real life?

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I don’t know if we are the first ones but I didn’t know why it sounds so compicated to set up a meeting…
But if people are not willing to meet others for real that’s understadable but if you ask for friendships, the least you can do is answering messages!

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I absolutely agree… facebook is even worse: people you know from the primary school for instance, but haven’t seen since then, add you and entirely ignore you when you say hi… At least you’ve got a choice to either accept or reject.

And, on the other topic, I wouldn’t say I was the first one, but I met two guys from here in real life

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I made a similar post like this on here months ago, I don’t understand why people add others as friends & then don’t communicate back especially when they’re online a ton too, it’s not hard to msg someone back, only takes a few seconds type & send. The way I see it, if I msg 3 x & don’t hear back & they don’t msg on their own, they’re not worth it. Don’t sweat it dude, there’s way more genuine folks here, just gotta search harder for them

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markspi75 said: Hi guys. Question for everyone. I am trying to understand what it means to be friend on HG. I usually respect everyone privacy and avoid bugging people who dont want to chat/message. But I dont understand those who friend you, and then dont even bother answer a simple “hello” message. I dont want to criticize … just trying to understand, honest. Am I expecting too much waiting for an answer from a friend on here? Any opinion is welcome. Thanks.

I’ve always had a disclaimer on my profile and you’d be surprised how many people still try to add me as a friend.

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I’m friendly with my friends. I only friend someone after we chat for a bit. I’ve gotten a few requests, but if we haven’t chatted, and you don’t ever say hello, I’ll drop you like a hat.

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Thanks guys for sharing your opinion. I agree with what has been said. The only think I would add is that I tyically see a friend request as a way to say “hi, I think your profile is interesting and I’d like to know you better”. So, if you accept, I tend to believe that the feeling was mutual. Apparently I have been naive.

One more note … none of the members who friended me and never returned my emails had left a comment to this post. Coincidence? Hehe …

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So should we friend you?

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I think it’s safe to say That some people “Collect” friends…( for some reason)...I never understood that. When I ask someone to be my friend, it is with the direct intent of talking to them. Even getting to know them. Even though Miniman83 is Straight, and on the other side of the world….I enjoy chatting with him immensely. (1 example).

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I never have this problem course I don’t have a pic up. Maybe taking your picture down will solve this?

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Are you suggesting my pics are so ugly, people don’t want to chat with me? LOL ... Well, thanks for sharing. J hope other members don’t feel the same.

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markspi75 said: Hi guys. Question for everyone. I am trying to understand what it means to be friend on HG. I usually respect everyone privacy and avoid bugging people who dont want to chat/message. But I dont understand those who friend you, and then dont even bother answer a simple “hello” message. I dont want to criticize … just trying to understand, honest. Am I expecting too much waiting for an answer from a friend on here? Any opinion is welcome. Thanks.

Well I understand your feelings. I do try to communicate with the “friends” that I make on HG. I also try to be a conversationalist on here besides just saying “hi” etc. At times, talking with people on here a little hard with some people, with others it’s easy. Unfortunatly for me, work keeps me very busy and I do not spend much time on here. I’m not being rude, but I just don’t have the time to respond in a timly manner. I am sure many on here are in the same prediciment as I am on here.

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